Society and culture tells us that it is okay to throw a pity party when things don't go well. Mainstream movies and TV spoon feed the lie that all women should grab a carton of ice cream and eat half the tub while watching a cheesy romance flick when their heart is hurting. Women are commonly shown to have group pity parties when life "goes wrong." Men are told to fill the ache with work, toys, extra relationships, and activities. This is how our culture tells us to deal with hurts and heartaches. It preaches that you can eat or perform your way out of the sin-induced ache that will inevitably creep inside your heart and life. But it's all a lie.
It doesn't matter who you are, where you are, or what kind of life you have. Even if you have your ideal circumstances, be it a life of travel overseas or two kids, a husband, and white picket fence, every single person on this planet will, at one time or another, experience the ache inside which loudly declares this is not final, this is not the point, and this is not our home. The ache might come when you're with everyone you know and love and you suddenly feel alone for some reason. It might come as you dwell on the fact that you are the 2% of this world's population and that the majority of this planet is hurting, suffering, dwelling in poverty, and facing persecution. It will inevitably come if you start dwelling on all you "don't have" and allow the demon of discontent to worm its way inside your heart and life.
The feeling and sense of discontent is a direct result of the fall. It tells us that we are not complete, we are not whole, and we are not fully satisfied. Wrongly used, this sense of discontentment can burry and eat alive a person who otherwise has a fantastic and blessed life. If used correctly, however, this sense of not belonging, not being fulfilled, and not being satisfied in the here and now can be used to catapult us on toward a relationship with Christ, the depths of which we have only begun to explore. It can be used as a diving board to launch us into the deep end of the love of Christ, the grace of Christ, and the reality that only in Christ are we made whole, complete, and satisfied. When used as a means to rightly direct our hearts and minds, the ache of discontentment can actually bring us joy in Christ. For when we focus on Him and all He is, when we consider how much we have been given by and in Him, it renders invalid our default toward pity.